How to help someone with OCD by: Samantha A. Huston, M.S., LCPC Director of ERP Services

Most people are familiar with the stereotypes of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD): incessant handwashing, making sure things are symmetrical, and excessive cleaning. However, as those living with OCD or supporting a loved one with it know, these characteristics can be much more than a quirky personality trait that results in tidy living quarters. OCD is a complicated, neurological issue that causes distress daily.

Uncomfortable emotions – like extreme fear, guilt, and disgust – are experienced in response toeveryday tasks. Moreover, the extensive rituals performed to deal with these feelings can takeover one’s life and significantly impact the lives of those around them.

For those touched by OCD, it can be difficult to know how to begin the healing journey.Similarly, it can be challenging for loved ones to know how to best provide support.

Over the years of helping individuals and families managing OCD symptoms as well as hearing from clients what they have found most supportive, I have identified a few “dos” when it comes to helping yourself and/or helping a loved one:

Do become educated about OCD. Join a support group, do some online research, listen to podcasts…whatever way you enjoy gathering information, go for it! The International OCDFoundation is an excellent starting point: https://iocdf.org

Understanding the symptoms and neurological mechanisms behind obsessions and compulsions will help normalize and validate experiences. If supporting a loved one with OCD, this deeper understanding of their diagnosis will help put into context the irrational thoughts and behaviors(from a non-personalized perspective), thus increasing the overall capacity to be supportive.

Do use supportive and encouraging words. People with OCD often hear or even say tothemselves phrases like: “Just stop worrying about it!” or “Focus on happier thoughts and ignorethe bad!” If obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors were a choice, most would shut themoff immediately. But it’s not that easy and these well-meaning statements ultimately feelminimizing, defeating, and shameful. It would be like asking a grieving person to ‘just stop’being sad, or a soldier returning from a warzone to ‘just stop’ being startled by loud noises.

So, what should be said in these situations?

Make an effort to validate the experiences. This helps someone (or yourself!) feel heard whilealso leading with compassion. A way to validate and offer support could be through a reflectivestatement like. “I know you don’t want to be doing compulsions. How can I support you gettingbetter?” It’s also helpful to recognize and celebrate any effort or progress you or your loved one makes.

OCD recovery can be tedious and slow work so pointing out progress can be helpful inkeeping-up motivation!

Do find appropriate, effective treatment by a qualified professional. Research has shown that the most effective trifecta for treating OCD symptoms is a multi-modal approach that includes medication, behavioral therapy, and family support. There is ever-growing research regarding the effectiveness of a variety of medications – and even supplements – that can assist in the treatment of OCD. However, medication alone will not cure symptoms. Many people with OCD report that while on effective medication, their obsessions and compulsions don’t go away but, rather, their worries become easier to dismiss and compulsions easier to resist.

When it comes to OCD therapy options, Exposure Response Prevention (ERP) is the gold standard. ERP involves making a list of feared or avoided situations, objects, thoughts, images, and urges then systematically exposing oneself to those triggers. Now, the idea here isn’t to flood with overwhelming fear but allow distress to exist and then naturally decrease on its own.Through continued ERP therapy, when clients are exposed to triggers they will reduce their use of compulsions and tap into their natural ability to face and tolerate discomfort. As they begin developing new, more tolerant-neural pathways, they will weaken the pathways to obsessions and compulsions.

For families assisting a loved one, Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions(SPACE) skills can be effective. SPACE focuses on parents and caregivers adjusting their behaviors to reduce accommodations for anxiety and instead empower tolerance through response prevention. https://www.spacetreatment.net

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